Find Your Way: The Path Over The Plan


I’m so excited to share this blog post with you! It’s an excerpt from an amazing book, Find Your Way, by my friend Carly Fiorina.

Carly is a dear friend and valued partner, and I know her insights in this post will help you unlock your potential to become the leader you’re meant to be.

Find Your Way is available in stores today, and you can purchase your copy here.

Carly Fiorina and John Maxwell at the Live2Lead event in 2018.

The Path over The Plan

By Carly Fiorina

It’s natural to fall into a rut from time to time, where we
wonder what we’re doing, where we’re going, and how it will all pan out in the
end. Not knowing what to do, we snap our fingers and hatch a plan.

“I’ll move to a new city!”

“I’ll start dating again!”

“I just need a new challenge! A new adventure! A tighter set
of abs.”

We focus on that “one thing” – whatever it is – convinced in
our hearts and minds that it will get
us going again.

The dirty little secret of a “destination mindset” – of
living life on plan – is that it
fails to deliver what it promises every
time
. For people who adopt an on-plan approach to life, there are only
three outcomes – each devastating in its own way.

You get there, but
you can’t sustain it.

Some destination-minded people arrive at their goals – the
title, the office, the salary – but are unable to maintain the measures of
success they sought so desperately.

A high-level executive I know, who worked for more than two
decades to earn the title of CEO, comes to mind. He knew at 28 that he would
reach his goal and, to his credit, he eventually did. But he had bulldozed his
way to the top, so his senior team didn’t respect him, his staff barely knew
him, and the company’s board couldn’t hold him accountable. Within three years,
his grand dream had turned into a nightmare and he was cut loose.

When you hyper-fixate on a destination, you might indeed
succeed at doing what you always wanted to do. But what kind of person will you
be once you arrive? I’ve seen it time and again: The depth of integrity
required to sustain a position of influence in any context is often
shortchanged by compromises made on the way up.

You get there, but it
can’t sustain you.

Another outcome is that you may get there, only to realize
soon after you arrive that it isn’t all it was cracked up to be. If you follow
pro football, you may remember seeing Tom Brady’s 60 Minutes interview following the third of Brady’s five Super Bowl
victories. In a moment of candor, Brady said, “Why do I have three Super Bowl
rings and still think there’s something greater out there for me?”

We think there’s a tremendous there there, at the height where we’ve set our heights. Yet, soon
after our glorious arrival, we find we’ve been duped.

You never get there
at all.

And of course, there is the possibility that, despite your
work and struggle and striving, you just won’t get there at all. And then you
have committed yourself to feeling despair because you have not achieved the one thing that you thought would bring
you fulfillment, joy, and satisfaction.

Find Your Way by Carly Fiorina

I know about this on-plan life firsthand. When I was
younger, I believed that I, too, simply needed to reach a destination to find
happiness. I was a classic, people-pleasing middle child and I found myself
enrolled in law school – a place that turned out to be absolutely wrong for me
– to please my father.

But I realized, after one too many migraines and unhappy
nights, that I couldn’t hang my hat on that destination.

Since then, I have tried to find my way not by setting my
mind on a destination, but by living my life on the path. I have run to the
problems in front of me and I have worked to unlock the potential of those
around me.

In my new book, Find Your Way, I talk about how to find peace, joy, and fulfillment by setting yourself free from the destination mindset and instead living life on the path. Find Your Way is available today.

The people around you may raise an eyebrow or two when you
begin to find your way. When you get this reaction, my advice is to keep on keepin’ on. Remind yourself that
you can suffer some tough blows without getting completely knocked out. In
fact, you can gain strength and wisdom, and even be blessed by those tough
blows. You can endure all the twists and turns in the road without becoming
disoriented or distraught.

You really can live in such a way that the twists and turns won’t flatten you; in fact, they will fuel your journey. You can find your way and never lose it again.

* This article was originally published here

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